Being single and surrounded by friends, co-workers and family who are in happy, long-term relationships, means that often you’ll get their two cents and unwanted advice on the subject of love.
Are you closed off to Love?
“Are you closed off to love?” I got asked this question a few times this year and once it wasn’t even a question, it was a statement. “I feel like you’re closed off to love.” Those were the exact words. My reaction was of course of surprise at first and then my defense mechanism kicked in and my answer was: “of course I’m not!”
But that comment got me thinking..
Am I actually closed off to love? Even if we say we want to find love and we want to share our day and maybe life with someone else, are we really ready to take that step?
I’ve always thought that the first person you should fall in love with is yourself and that I had to think about solving my own issues and being comfortable with myself first before I could be with someone else, but what if you can find that level of comfort and serenity through someone else?
Being closed off to love means refusing to accept it. There were times when I thought I was and wondered how I could be more open, but then, if I’m asking myself how to be more open to love, isn’t that a sign that I’m not closed off? Maybe being closed off to love is just another way for people to make an excuse for someone who’s not in a relationship.
We make choices, we have options. Some people find their significant other easily and early in life, some have to wait longer and some are happy the way they are. With or without love.
I don’t believe you can be closed off to love. It is a feeling and yes, you can try to hide your emotions, bury them, but you, yourself, you know what you’re experiencing deep down.